Michael Sync

What is this principle?

10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.

What does this mean?

We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us. We cannot stop the car from

breaking down, the plane will be late arriving, etc.

The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.

How?

By your reaction. You cannot control a red light, but you can control your reaction.

Don’t let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.

Here is example.

You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto

your business shirt. You have no control over what just what happened. What happens when the

next will be determined by how you react. You curse. You harshly scold your daughter for knocking

the cup over.

She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for

placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm

upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying

to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus. Your spouse must leave

immediately for work.

You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40

miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit. After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away,

you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at

the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it

continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home, When you arrive

home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter

.

Why? Because of how you reacted in the morning. Why did you have a bad day?

A) Did the coffee cause it?

B) Did your daughter cause it?

C) Did the policeman cause it?

D) Did you cause it?

The answer is ” D”.

You had no control over what happened with the coffee.

How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day. Here is what could have

and should have happened.

Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, “It’s ok honey, you

just need, to be more careful next time”. Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a

new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see

your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully

greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.

Notice the difference?

Why? Because of how you REACTED.

If someone says something negative about you, don’t be a sponge. Let the attack roll off

like water on glass. You don’t have to let the negative comment affect you! React properly and it

will not ruin your day.

We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.

It CAN change your life!!!

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